tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post6733633984083202850..comments2023-09-05T10:20:13.196-04:00Comments on motley moms: GuiltFawnda@Fireflies and Jellybeanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11098369192096978914noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-43442836572999203942009-08-08T09:50:17.737-04:002009-08-08T09:50:17.737-04:00Yes. The mommy guilt can be tough. I have it too...Yes. The mommy guilt can be tough. I have it too, but it doesn't stop me from having some me time. It keeps me sane. <br /><br />As far as getting away for a weekend, as Nike says, Just do it! No one is going to arrange something like that for you - NO ONE! I try to be sensitive to my hubby's work schedule and such, but every few months, I NEED TO GET AWAY!<br /><br />Do I feel a little guilty? YES! But I see it as a planned running away from home and then I always look forward to coming back. <br /><br />Once a year a friend of mine from highschool and I go to the beach and chill and eat dinner and talk, talk, talk. It's great! We sleep in late and do absolutely nothing but hang out. It's great. We look forward to it each year.<br /><br />It's also good for daddy. He totally appreciates me when I get home and the kids LOVE having him all to themselves. He spoils the snot out of them and that's OK.Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14669926707065532828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-51619076667492857912009-08-07T21:11:40.847-04:002009-08-07T21:11:40.847-04:00Lindsay, that's one of the things I admire mos...Lindsay, that's one of the things I admire most about you - that you're so laid-back. Seriously. Don't feel guilty - enjoy that time away from your kiddos!Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04248351772305460335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-49310425133597983862009-08-07T20:51:06.882-04:002009-08-07T20:51:06.882-04:00I have a little bit different kind of guilt. I DO...I have a little bit different kind of guilt. I DON'T feel guilty for leaving my kids with a sitter for a night out, or even on a 10 day vacation with my hubby (we did this in '06). But I DO feel guilty because I don't feel guilty....does that make since? I am not the worrying kind of mom at all. I just don't worry when I'm gone, but then I hear all of these moms talking about how they hate leaving their kids, which them makes me feel "guilty". What kind of horrible mother am I that actually enjoys and looks forward to leaving my kids..... I mean I stay home with them 24/7 98% of the time. I don't leave them very often, so when I do, I am so excited about it. And I trust the people I leave them with (usually my parents) 100%. Plus all the reasons others have listed, important for marriage, bonding time with grandparents/other adults.....Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03200720166892342059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-53541878588145260952009-08-07T09:12:56.093-04:002009-08-07T09:12:56.093-04:00Okay, Rachel, I read your whole comment and I like...Okay, Rachel, I read your whole comment and I like it, but the part I picked up on was this: You're leaving your family for a whole weekend? How do you get to do that??? Lucky ducky...<br />I agree a lot with your last paragraph and I firmly believe that the more positive adult role models my kids have, the better.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04248351772305460335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-26189061610888089262009-08-06T22:19:20.480-04:002009-08-06T22:19:20.480-04:00Not to make light of your post, but I just watched...Not to make light of your post, but I just watched The Nanny Diaries, and if you ever start feeling guilty again it is a sure-fire cure. Are there really mothers out there like that?<br /><br />I can relate to your sense of guilt, and I'll add something to it: apprehension. I have a moment of hesitation before leaving our son with anyone for anything, even if it's with my husband while I run to the grocery store. I'm supposed to travel to a conference in September without my family, and I'm already starting to feel nervous about going. It's not that I think their world would stop turning without me, it's just that there are so many "what if's" that come to mind if I'm not careful. I think becoming a mom has opened the door to a new sense of self for me, and that's good in some cases, bad in others.<br /><br />So, all that said, it is important for our kids to know and trust other (trusted) people, and we should probably not feel too guilty allowing that to happen, no matter what the reason. Start worrying when you miss a school play because you're getting your nails done or when your kids start calling someone else, "Mommy." ;)Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11366323661246879308noreply@blogger.com