tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post9052094845376672657..comments2023-09-05T10:20:13.196-04:00Comments on motley moms: LostFawnda@Fireflies and Jellybeanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11098369192096978914noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-79173058276116277852009-10-18T12:28:02.572-04:002009-10-18T12:28:02.572-04:00Thank you Quartermom for the great advice. I am on...Thank you Quartermom for the great advice. I am on hormone replacement therapy, but I think it needs to be adjusted. Thank you for your comment and encouragement!!Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16351890505800009950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-36052787478554280422009-10-17T18:34:30.145-04:002009-10-17T18:34:30.145-04:00This is really important to write about. I think e...This is really important to write about. I think every mom goes thru this at some point and we have to remind ourselves that we ROCK! <br />You are making a household run. That is a full time job. It's how you run it. Also the thing about the hysterectomy,I had a friend who said it messes with your hormones and that is most likely a huge factor. I would talk with your doctor about supplements and possibly getting you back on track in your physiology. Look into this. Oprah did a whole thing on this and how woman were dealing with not being right b/c we are off balance somehow. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing!quartermomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10358470962609720272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-71592118638667801442009-10-15T10:02:49.142-04:002009-10-15T10:02:49.142-04:00Oh Lindsay - I hear you! I think it is so hard to ...Oh Lindsay - I hear you! I think it is so hard to find a good balance between doing everything without complaining and just venting to survive. Running is so good to help get rid of stress. I hope you have time to start again when you want to. I have tried to start exercising each day, and I hope that will help. Hang in there!Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16351890505800009950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-53565897748051228532009-10-14T15:55:29.842-04:002009-10-14T15:55:29.842-04:00I lose myself frequently. When life gets me down ...I lose myself frequently. When life gets me down (even when there is nothing to be "down" about). Like last week I was stuck at home with 3 kids (not at the same time, but all running together), for about 10 days. I also had no internet (my connection to the outside world), and no TV (like zero). Oh and I was PMSing at the same time. I was miserable. I cried, and felt sorry for myself, and just had a big pitty party. I feel really really really lonely a LOT!!!!! <br /><br />My secret is that even though I have lots of friends, I don't have anyone to talk to (or at lease I feel that way). So when I am having a bad day, I just turn inward on myself. It's a hard cycle to get out of.<br /><br />Oh and I stopped running, which my "ME" thing.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03200720166892342059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-13985798290475687032009-10-13T14:55:46.396-04:002009-10-13T14:55:46.396-04:00Pam, I know some of what you're feeling! Latel...Pam, I know some of what you're feeling! Lately I've started looking back to the "good old days" and wondering where I lost my feelings of independence and contentment. I'm married to a wonderful man, we have a beautiful baby. But somewhere along the way I started feeling deflated and merely coasting. I've found that reminding myself that God has a plan for me helps to counteract those feelings of uselessness. He hasn't given up on me just because I've gained a few pounds or gotten my priorities mixed up!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-21072562559018909732009-10-13T07:13:53.817-04:002009-10-13T07:13:53.817-04:00Thanks everyone! I really wish I could find you al...Thanks everyone! I really wish I could find you all too living in the same place as me. Bryssy, you are so sweet, beautiful and talented, no matter how small you used to be. I can't wait to meet you, Fawnda and Karly. Fawnda, if you ever find yourself driving south into Iowa, let me know! Thank you Karly for your compliments. Liz and Donna, I think you are right. I need to just get out there and find some people or something to look forward too. I had that in Florida. I need to find that here. Thanks mom, for reading my work and supporting me. I love you. I hope you all have a great week!Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16351890505800009950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-11580388465987581422009-10-12T23:29:09.645-04:002009-10-12T23:29:09.645-04:00First of all you are a great writer. You could ge...First of all you are a great writer. You could get this published! Second of all, your mom is so great. She had me balling last week! And last, I think you have put words to how all of us feel sometimes as moms. Motherhood is a dream come true for me, but sometimes it is much more than I bargained for. It requires ALL of me and then some. And sometimes I too feel lost. <br /><br />Happy Hunting!! Look near the chocolate, that's where I'd be!Karlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704404677897329220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-2159694577943956072009-10-12T21:10:26.277-04:002009-10-12T21:10:26.277-04:00Pam, I can't tell you how many times I have th...Pam, I can't tell you how many times I have thought the same thing. Sometimes I am think I am just a glimmer of my former (younger and skinnier) self. Then I look at who I have become and really, I wouldn't change it. I'm older, fatter, been married twice, more jaded...did I mention older and fatter? I am a mom and wife (works in progress, mind you) and I can't even imagine something better than that.<br /><br /><br />I liked your mom's advice; for me sometimes the best I can muster is locking myself in the bathroom by myself and reading (even just a couple pages). Stay strong, girl. I would bet the house that the "you" that you have become is awesome! Plus, I actually know you, I don't have to bet, you are, in fact, awesome. I think you just need a little reminder. ;-)Bryssyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18265775437980612879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-25709438924327119222009-10-12T20:05:34.842-04:002009-10-12T20:05:34.842-04:00The only thing I do for myself right now is take t...The only thing I do for myself right now is take the Pump It Up class twice a week at the Y. And I have to rush out in order to make it to KID 1's classroom for my storytime hour with them once a week. And I can't go if (when) the kids are sick, which is frustrating because when I can finally go back, it hurts for several days after. <br /><br />However, I am so glad I can do this one thing for myself, even if it's sporadic. MOPS is another "just for me" time twice a month. I really enjoy that time with friends. And you know I HAVE to have at least ONE Girls' Night Out each month. So it's kind of a conglomerative effect. Bits and pieces here and there that keep me bouyed up during those times when I would otherwise drown in my miserable self-pity or forget that THIS is what I CHOSE and it's mostly FUN! <br /><br />Even if you have to force yourself to smile for a while, it will begin to feel natural with practice! Have fun, girl! ;DDonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15476636154469326229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-51885347228623914332009-10-12T19:26:02.846-04:002009-10-12T19:26:02.846-04:00I agree with your mom - do something completely fo...I agree with your mom - do something completely for yourself. Take a class. Join a support group. ANYTHING, as long as you don't have to take Alex or Charlie. ;) Everyone needs something that's all their own, especially moms.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04248351772305460335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-4021152716027819392009-10-12T17:20:15.128-04:002009-10-12T17:20:15.128-04:00Pam,
Your mom is so sweet! What great advice! I ...Pam,<br />Your mom is so sweet! What great advice! I don't think I can add much to it.<br /><br />I am going to starting "looking for you"... you could be in a lot of my favorite places! I know that if we lived closer we would be great friends that hang out all the time! I think you are a lot of fun! especially your poams! : )Fawnda@Fireflies and Jellybeanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11098369192096978914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-60335074123482026992009-10-12T14:47:13.213-04:002009-10-12T14:47:13.213-04:00That last comment was from me your mom, I just am ...That last comment was from me your mom, I just am not to computer savey.Lorinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328214691677556425.post-34776214148801167752009-10-12T14:43:03.514-04:002009-10-12T14:43:03.514-04:00I love your story. You are so funny. I think as mo...I love your story. You are so funny. I think as moms we lose ourselves somewhere in the process of raising our family. Take time to find you. What you like and what you want to do for pleasure. If you don't do it now, someday you will wake up and be 60 and wonder where your life went and what did you do with it.Make a plan to spend at least 2 hours a week doing something important to and for YOU. You deserve it and it will help to make you better at everything else.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com